Having a brother

There are these two new guys at work that are also in their twenties. And I've stopped counting the comments I get from them, like "Sure I'll go out with your sister but only if she's as pretty as you", "Lets get lunch together", "Better not invite me to your wedding or else I'll stand up against it when they ask", and "I like girls who look like you". And then there are the times they stand closer to me than necessary or sit by me given the opportunity.

These same guys also tell me about all of the girls they are dating. They even bring them to institute classes that we share.

So, being the overcomplicated girl that I am, I thought I was getting mixed signals and it was getting frustrating. Seriously guys, if you think you might like me, ask me out. But then the other girls thing got confusing so I wasn't sure what to think.

In comes my little brother (who I'll call LittleB). And by little I mean he is also in his twenties and he is a weight lifter (big). Anyway, I tell him about these guys and the conversations and my feelings about it and that I don't get why they flirt but don't act on it. Then he says "It doesn't mean anything, they are just practicing." And I'm all "Practicing what? Flirting? Why would they do that, its stupid" So he goes on to tell me that he has done it plenty of times (flirted with girls he has no intention of dating just because its fun and its good practice to keep "the skills"). And of course I replied with "Why are boys so freakin' stupid?" To which he says "I don't know, we just are". I love having a brother.

But, it makes sense. Its like that movie/book "He's Just Not That Into You" where they talk about how if a guy really likes a girl, he isn't going to sit back and wait around for someone else to snatch her up and he certainly isn't going to talk about his other girls and chance scaring off the girl that he really does like. So I get it now. These guys are not into me. And that's okay. Because truly I'm not into them either. Yes, the attention is nice. But so is the "accepting compliments" practice. :)